2nd Chance To Be With My 1st Love, Albeit With a “Scarlet Letter” on My Chest (Part 3)

So, that last Part of my story was not a fun one to write, but it had to be done.  It is what it is.  This part is just a final thought of Part 2.

People will always come to their own conclusions and make judgements based on the limited information they have, no matter what I or anyone else is doing with their lives.  I agree that what we do with our lives affects other people.  The most affected are the ones we care about the most.  Does that mean that we base every choice we make on what others may think about it?  Of course not!  I always say that there is a Yin and Yang with everything in life.  We should be very careful with the choices we make and care about how it affects others; however, if someone doesn’t agree with what you are doing, that does not mean you shouldn’t do it.  I have read somewhere that it is a 1/3, 1/3, 1/3 world.  NO MATTER WHAT YOU ARE DOING, 1/3 of the people will like you or LIKE what you’re doing.  1/3 of the people will hate you or HATE what you are doing and finally, 1/3 of the people won’t care about you or WON’T CARE about what you are doing.  You have most likely heard it put this way, “No matter what we do, we can not please all of the people all of the time.  We can only please some of the people some of the time”.  That is why it is so important to make decisions based on what makes YOU happy.   The key is to find yourself, love yourself and BE yourself.  Then, surround yourself with the 1/3 who loves you!

But, yes, having people, (some of which I really cared about), suddenly turn their backs on me, realizing how many people I negatively affected, and finding out how many people conditionally loved me, was a difficult thing to go through.  However, there is usually a silver lining when we go through challenges in life…It is true that what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger!  Because of going through some of that, I live my life for me.  I don’t live it for the approval of anyone else.  At the same time, I try to live my life harmoniously with others.  I try to treat others the way I want to be treated.  I don’t judge people.  I don’t care if someone judges me, because it doesn’t hurt me.  It only hurts them.   It’s a shame, but sometimes even church goers forget this scripture:

Matthew 7:1 Judge not, that ye be not judged.For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?

Well, enough of that.  I wanted to write that at the end of the last Part, but I have to admit, writing and reliving some of that got a little emotional, so I cut it short.

If you look at my blog, you will find “The “Wemmick Story” by Max Lucado, which talks about people “trying” to label you.  If you haven’t heard that story before, you should check it out.

Published by Lisa

As an author of the book, Lost and Finding Joy: Discovering Joy During Difficult Times, entrepreneur, certified life coach and life mastery consultant, my passion is to connect people with their dreams and to help them build their dreams -- or at least create better results for themselves; helping them live richer, more fulfilling lives. I really enjoy sharing my own personal experiences as an example for navigating this life, working towards living 90+ years, instead of living 1 year 90 times.

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