So, yeah, like I mentioned in the last blog post, there’s stuff we have to get past to get to where we want to go. First things first. We have to have a destination in mind. We have to figure out where we want to go or what we want to do. Simply discovering what we would love to do in our own lives can be nothing short of a mystery. We ask ourselves, “What would I love?” I don’t know. “What would I love?”
There are a fortunate few who seem to be born knowing what they want to pursue in life. You know, the ones in high school that say, I want to be a doctor, a lawyer, a nurse, or even an actor or actress. But even if they are fortunate enough to get to where they think they want to be, some of them feel dissatisfied when they get there. That’s because we aren’t meant to just stay in one place and get comfortable. We are meant to grow, learn, become, and experience. I’m not saying you have to change careers to be happy. But, I bet there is some area in your life right now, where you may want to see some improvement. You may even want to grow and expand in the career you have. That’s because we are always becoming, always growing. I’m learning that there is no destination where we arrive and sit back and say, “Ah, I’ve arrived. I can just stay in perfect bliss the rest of my life!” No, that’s not the way it works. We weren’t designed that way. Life is definitely a journey–and we are either growing and expanding, or contracting and decaying. Instinctively, if you really think about it, you know it’s true.
In January, 2018, I found myself in a rut again. I was disappointed, because I was doing so well and feeling so good for about 4 years. I thought I had found “myself” and I was really enjoying helping others and sharing some of the things I had learned in a women’s small group I was leading; I was volunteering regularly for community and church projects; our heating and air business was doing very well financially; my marriage was wonderful; my children were happy and healthy; and life should’ve been pretty dang good. So, why did I feel like I was missing something? Good question (even though I’m the one that’s asking it 🙂 ) .
Prior to this I was perfectly content and had moved into what I call my comfort zone. That nice warm little place that we want to sit and bask in awhile, but when we bask too long, we start feeling like we are in a rut again. Remember, if we are not growing…I had gotten to the point that I wasn’t motivated to do anything that I had been so in love with doing for about 4 years. I was going through the motions, but just feeling like I was missing the target. One thing I’ve learned for sure, is to LISTEN to my discontent. I’ve learned to pay attention to it. So I did what I knew to do when I feel this way; I prayed to God, asking for guidance. I even decided to fast about it this time. When we are asking and seeking for answers, we better believe the answers are coming. The answers come in crazy ways sometimes. And just like always, an answer came. This time it was in a Facebook post. It was a psychological quiz, and it piqued my interest because I am fascinated with psychology. Ultimately, I joined a program, which led me to another program, which led me to discovering what a life coach was. I had found my passion once again. A large part of me felt completely satisfied because once again, I was learning and growing. I say “a large part” of me, because that’s something I want to share with you. All of me wasn’t completely satisfied. A small part of me was questioning. One of those pesky obstacles that gets in the way is a four letter word called, fear. It usually shows up when we are doing something different. It always shows up when we are moving outside of our comfort zones. I started questioning myself. What am I doing? How does this match up with what I’ve known? Who am I to think I can do this? What if I fail…again?
Ah. Fear. That dream killing, life sucking, four letter word. I’ll tell you why it shows up, how I learned to recognize it, and how I learned to overcome it in the next blog post.
In the meanwhile, I want to leave you with some food for thought…
To get to where you want to go, you gotta have a destination in mind. But how?
- When you are discovering what it is you would love for your life, it’s usually something you have already been doing or something you may have done even as a child. You just may have pushed it in the corner somewhere. Get curious about it, and ask yourself in a quiet moment, maybe just before bed, “What would I love?” or “What’s my next best steps?” And, ask God. Pray about it. “Ask and ye shall receive…seek and ye shall find…”
- When you picture yourself doing what you want, it should feel expansive and life-giving. It shouldn’t ever feel contractive.
- Try not to limit what you want to do. Don’t ask yourself what you think you can do or what people say you should do or limit yourself to what you are doing now. Ask yourself, if nothing were impossible, (because it’s not…”With God ALL things are possible…”), if ANYTHING were possible, what would you love to be, do, have?
Love you guys! See you in the next blog post. It’s one you won’t want to miss. 😉