Why do we get comfortable in our misery and accept (for far too long) the negative feelings and sadness that we experience? In the middle of the storm, sometimes we forget that there is a higher power who not only created us, but also loves us and will carry us out of the holes in which we fall. Let’s be real. Every day is not peaches and cream. Circumstances arise that seem so much bigger than we are, BUT “fear is a liar” (just like the song says). The truth is this: When we connect with God, there is no circumstance that is bigger than us.
One of my favorite sayings is, ”
“Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass; it’s about learning to dance in the rain.” (anonymous)
When a circumstance (or storm) shows up in our lives, we definitely need to allow ourselves to go through certain feelings and emotions. While we are going through those feelings and emotions, however, we should not stop living while waiting for things to get better. If we stop living, we become depressed. That can be dangerous. There is something we can do, no matter what the circumstance is. Simply put one foot in front of the other, moving forward, until that emotion is resolved or in a better place. While we are taking the steps, we should remember we are not alone. God is with us. These two scriptures go through my mind when I’m faced with a challenge:
Romans 8:31 – What shall we then say to these things? If God be for us, who can be against us?
Philipians 4:13 – I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.
There are some situations that are terrible. There is sadness in this world. The pain is real and can be excruciating; BUT, that doesn’t make the truth any less true. The truth is that life is only 10% what happens, and 90% how we react or think about it. We have the incredible ability to decide how we choose to think about it. We can choose to look for the good in any situation. Here is a story that I heard from one of my mentors:
THE KING AND THE FARMER
There was a king who became friends with a farmer, because the farmer would say, “this is good” about every occurrence in life no matter what it was.
One day the king and the farmer were out hunting. The farmer loaded a
gun and handed it to the king. When the king fired it, his thumb was blown off.
“This is good!” exclaimed his friend.
The king was furious. “How can you say this is good? This is obviously horrible!” he shouted.
The king put his friend in the deepest, darkest part of the dungeon.
About a year later the king went hunting by himself. Cannibals captured
him and took him to their village. They tied his arms, stacked some
wood, set up a stake and bound him to it. As they came near to set fire
to the wood, they noticed that the king was missing a thumb. Being
superstitious, they never ate anyone who was less than whole. They
untied the king and sent him on his way.
Full of remorse the king rushed to the dungeon to release his friend.
“You were right, it WAS good” the king said.
The king told his friend how the missing thumb saved his life and
added, “I feel terrible that I locked you in here. That was such a bad
thing to do”
“NO! this is good!” responded his delighted friend.
“How could that be good? I did a terrible thing to you!”
“It is good!” said his friend… “If I wasn’t in here, I would have been
hunting with you, and they would have captured and eaten me!”
If we can’t see any good in our present circumstance, it’s okay. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other, knowing that God is already working it out for us. In the middle of the storm simply ask yourself, “What steps can I take today?” After all, it’s not about waiting for the storm to pass; it’s about learning to dance in the rain.